- Published on 12 December 2016
NOT SURE whether staying the night is on the cards? We consider some tricky se.x pickles.
How does one deal with embarrassing situations when they happen? Like noisy neighbours, for example?
If you heard two people shouting and screaming at each other and heard things crashing loudly, then surely, you’d speak up – be it to the neighbours themselves or the police.
But when it comes to se.x, how do we handle the situation? It’s so embarrassing. To go up to their door and say: “I’m sorry to disturb your passion sesh, but I’m trying to hear my own thoughts you hyper-se.xed, se.xually fluid exhibitionists!”
There are many complexities when it comes to se.xual etiquette.
Here are a few questions we’re all still a bit unsure about – along with possible answers:
Is it fine to have a guy go down on you but you don’t reciprocate?
Surely, it should be tit or tat? Or do you take turns?
Are you obliged to cuddle if it’s a one-night stand?
Oh, no. Cuddling is about connection, one-night stands are about lust.
Is it okay to refuse kissing your partner after they’ve gone down on you?
Er . . . unsure.
Probably once it becomes abundantly clear that se.xual escapades are about to happen.
Should you ever tell a partner that what they’re doing is wrong?
Sure, but this can be a sensitive matter. Don’t say “wrong”, rather guide your partner to another, more pleasurable area, and then communicate your approval.
Making eye contact during se.x (especially on a one-night stand), is it necessary?
Absolutely not. This is very much a relationship thing which might just freak someone out in a one-time deal.
At what time exactly do you have the condom talk?
Refer to question and speculative answer on period se.x.
Is it safe to assume you’re spending the night when it’s a one-night stand?
Yes, unless the one you’ve been with starts backtracking after climax. Then it’s time to go.
If you have a pet, do you allow them in the room while you’re having se.x?
We’d say no.
Pets and se.x shouldn’t be intertwined in any context, no matter how innocent.