Is sex always on your mind? Ever wonder if you have a sex addiction? In this article we have put together a list of questions that you can ask yourself to find out if you should be seeking treatment.
Sex is a normal part of human life. Sex is needed to procreate of course, and a regular, healthy sex life with a partner can help relieve stress and nurture the relationship between the couple at the same time. However, when a person spends too much time having or thinking about sex, they could be developing a sex addiction.
“Too Much Sex — Is that Really an Addiction?”
Having “too much sex“ may not sound like a bad thing. And as previously mentioned, a safe and active sex life can actually offer many health benefits including lowered blood pressure, decreased stress and more. Sex addiction, however, can best be described as compulsive sexual thoughts and/or behaviors that increase over time — often to a point which could be considered an obsession. Classified as a type of process addiction, the person becomes addicted to the act of having sex, or addicted to thinking about sexual acts.
Sex addiction can most commonly be broken down into 10 types of addiction including voyeuristic sex, paying for sex and fantasy sex among others.
Signs of Sex Addiction
So what are some of the symptoms? Are you a sex addict? Is your partner a sex addict? Read on to learn more about the signs of a true sex addiction.
1) Compulsively cheating on a partner or spouse.
2) Engaging in multiple extramarital affairs that have almost nothing to do with intimacy.
3) Masturbating excessively and/or obsessively.
4) Getting involved in unsafe sexual encounters despite knowing they're risky.
5) Compulsively engaging in phone sex.
6) Making a habit of having anonymous sexual partners.
7) Turning to prostitution — either soliciting sex from prostitutes or becoming a prostitute or escort.
8) Engaging in sexual behaviors that interfere with other obligations like work, family life, and school.
9) Trolling classified ads online or in print for sex partners.
10) Getting irritable, anxious, or angry without frequent sex.
11) Spending an inordinate amount of time planning (often deviant) sex fantasies.
12) Feeling a great deal of guilt and remorse after engaging in sexual behaviors.
13) Frequently arguing with family and loved ones about the hypersexual behavior.
14) Engaging in unhealthy or compulsive sexual behavior despite knowing the risks of physical harm to self or others involved.
15) Repeatedly trying to curb the sexual fantasies, urges, and behaviors without being able to.
16) Habitually having one-night stands.
17) Knowingly compromising personal relationships (including marriages) in order to fulfill sexual fantasies and urges.
18) Performing sex acts that tend to be precipitated by a depressed mood.
19) Engaging in exhibitionism (a desire to expose parts of the body), in public.
20) Getting pleasure out of voyeurism and frequently engaging in it.
If you recognize a good number of these traits in yourself or your partner, seek out a therapist in order to get some help. Sexual addiction can be treated.