There has been a curvy women movement of late, with body positive social media channels popping up all over the place. Yet, one thing that is still seldom spoken of is plus-size people having s_ex.
Last week we wrote about a body-positive Instagram personality called Cheyenne who put the reason why perfectly.
She said: “If you’re fat, you’re typically denied s_exuality altogether or it’s forced on you in the form of a fetish. People assume you have se_x with a shirt on and the lights off, which is true for some of us.”
But guess what? Plus-size people have lights-on, no clothes s_ex too.
Elle Chase, certified s_ex educator and author of Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life told the Daily Star Online the best way for plus-size women to feel confident in bed is to, “concentrate on the pleasure you are giving your partner and the pleasure they are giving you”.
She added: “It’s especially powerful for women who have areas of low self esteem when it comes to their bodies. Distracting the mind with what great things are happening in the moment is a terrific way to stay present and to draw the mind away from any negative feelings one might be having about themselves.”
The main difference between having s_ex as an average weight person and se_x as an overweight person, Elle said, is there is a bit of extra flesh involved.
The best position to help curvy women get off? Good old missionary.
Elle added: “Through my research I’ve found that any form of Missionary position (receiver on the bottom) seems to be the easiest to manoeuvre. Especially, because pillows can be utilised underneath the hips and bum to lift the genitals upward. This causes gravity to work it’s magic, and pull any flesh that might get in the way, back toward the torso leaving a more open and accessible area for penetration. That being said, doggy style is a very close second, but for anyone with knee or back pain that could be uncomfortable.”
In saying this, plus-size women or men can have se_x in whatever position they like, as long as they are comfortable.
Blogger Cheyenne added, “Your soft belly, jiggly hips, dimpled thighs are beautiful and se_xy. That muffin top you once hid? It should be unleashed in all its glory during s_ex. Anyone who is disrespectful of that doesn’t deserve s_ex with you.”