All relationships take work, and marriage, which can present couples with unforeseen challenges no matter how long they have been together, is no different.

That said, some hurdles are more insurmountable than others — and they require sufficient attention. Here, divorce attorneys explain some telltale signs a marriage won't last a year.

1. There is excessive conflict when planning the wedding
One warning sign of a potentially unstable marriage can appear before the wedding even happens.

"Even as early as the wedding planning phase, one party might want to have an extravagant celebration and be willing to incur debt for it while the other might be content with a small dinner for family and closest friends," Kelly A. Frawley, a partner at Kasowitz Benson Torres LLP's matrimonial and family law department, told INSIDER.

Planning a wedding can be incredibly stressful for everyone involved, so some arguments are inevitably bound to happen during the lead-up to the event. But if the fights are intense, always about the same thing, and reveal vastly differing opinions on what the wedding should entail and cost, it might be worth taking a step back and giving the relationship some extra consideration.

2. You are getting married just for the thrill of it
A common reason for a quick divorce is when people get married just for the sake of having a wedding.

"The excitement of 'getting married' was the reason they got married and then realize they have no similar interests or different life goals," Nancy Chemtob, founding partner at Chemtob, Moss, Forman & Beyda LLP., told INSIDER.

So, before you get married, ask yourself you really know your partner and if you really want to spend the rest of your life with them. If the answer to either of those questions is anything less than a resounding "yes," it's probably best to put the brakes on the wedding.

3. You rarely spend time together
One potential sign of an impending divorce? Neither partner is spending all that much time together.

"One of the parties continues to go out with the 'girls' or 'boys' and excludes their new spouse, therein creating conflict and feeling of rejection," Chemtob told INSIDER.

Obviously, this doesn't mean that anyone needs to stop spending time with their friends just because they've gotten married. People generally should spend some time without their partners, whether they're alone or with their friends. But if one partner is spending so much time with other people that it makes their spouse feel isolated, it could be a sign that the relationship isn't going to work.

4. You don't discuss your financial goals
Money, unsurprisingly, is often a relationship stressor long after the wedding has occurred — but if you're disagreeing about what you want to do with your money while planning the wedding, or simply not discussing it at all, it could be a sign that a marriage is heading for early failure.

"I think the biggest red flag is with couples who did not discuss their financial circumstances and goals before or during the engagement," Frawley told INSIDER. "One party might want to save for a house in the suburbs while the spouse wants to remain in the city and continue to rent."

Although it can be easy to assume that these disagreements will eventually resolve themselves, they rarely do — and they might become a problem sooner than you'd think.

5. You have prenup/postnup disputes
"Something that is more common than you think is that there was supposed to be a prenup which never got signed and now there is pressure to sign a postnup and the spouse is refusing," Chemtob told INSIDER.

So, if you know you want a prenup, make sure you put your foot down and actually get one. Or, at the very least, talk with your partner about their hesitations if they are reluctant to sign one to see if you can come to an agreement.

"A prenup is an excellent way to clear issues off the table early on," Chemtob told INSIDER. "Both parties understand how the finances will work during the marriage and there will be no surprises as to who will be paying for what. It also sets forth the assets and liabilities of the parties getting married…[which] means there is complete transparency at the very beginning."

According to Chemtob, the prenup process can sometimes reveal some unsettling things about a future spouse, like realizing they are "incredibly cheap [or] exceedingly greedy."

It won't be fun to find those things out — but, then again, it's probably best to discover before you marry someone, rather than after.

6. One partner shows early signs of substance abuse
Signs of addiction and substance abuse, which can often unravel marriages, sometimes appear in unexpected ways.

"Substance abuse can become an issue," Frawley told INSIDER. "Where excessive alcohol use might have been fun before marriage, it might lose such appeal when you're married and your spouse returns home later than dinnertime and isn't the best condition when he or she does."

While such issues can take years to fully develop, it is possible that things you may have been willing to look past in the lead-up to the marriage can become unbearable within a year.

So, if you notice some early signs of what might be alcohol or drug dependency, talk with your partner ASAP about options for recovery.


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